YOUR LIFE, YOUR DEATH, YOUR CHOICE How to Have Your Voice to the End of Your Life – is an e-book based on six years of research and teaching providing you with the necessary resources for considering your end of life options. It is…
WRITTEN FOR ADULTS OF ALL AGE
PROVIDES OPTIONS AND GUIDANCE FOR CHOOSING YOUR MEDICAL PROXY AND ADVANCED MEDICAL DIRECTIVES
ENCOURAGES REFLECTION , CHOICE MAKING AND CONVERSATION
GIVES DIRECT INFORMATION ABOUT THE IMPLICATIONS OF YOUR CHOICES
USES MANY REAL EXAMPLES
ENABLES INTERACTION WITH OVER 65 WEB SITES THROUGH LINKS TO VIDEOS, POD CASTS AND ARTICLES
SUGGESTS TOOLS AND STRATEGIES TO “HAVE THE CONVERSATION” WITH FAMILY, DOCTOR, AND HEALTH CARE AGENT
ADDRESSES DEMENTIA AND MEDICAL DIRECTIVES
INCLUDES FORMS TO VIEW, DOWNLOAD AND PRINT
If you have an older adult who is not computer literate, buy it and read the book with her/him. If you are younger, buy it for yourself. As you will see when you read some of the examples, accidents and illness can strike at any time.
HOW TO USE THIS E-BOOK
This e-book allows you to read it on a computer or tablet. Gray boxes are present and by clicking or taping on the blue link within a gray box you will be taken to a site to view videos, listen to pod casts, see news programs, or read printed articles of relevance. The text boxes also provide suggestions for reflection about your choices and ways to start a conversation.
Why complete advanced directives? (Everyone over 18 should complete a directive!)
Forms to choose from (There are many, which do you prefer?)
Going deeper and beyond the forms (12 treatment choices and their implications.)
Other important issues (Decisions which can impact your quality of life and/or violate your choices at the end.)
Gray areas and dementia (Decide now, before it’s too late!)
Death with Dignity and Assisted Dying (A movement that’s growing.)
Appendices with forms to download and print if you desire.
The book is available in a variety of formats for different kinds of tablets and computers. CLICK HERE TO BUY THE BOOK .
NOTE: If you choose to read it on a computer you must download e-book reader software. I am using ‘Ice Cream” and it works well. Type into your search engine “e-book readers” and select and download the one that appeals and matches your computer (Apple or PC).
And please offer your thoughts on this website about your reading, reflection, and conversations with those who are important to you.
COMMENTS ON THE BOOK
From a financial planner:
“I got the book last night and downloaded it on my iPad and it works perfectly. The colors are all there and the links work well. I’ve read about a third of it so far including the linked articles and videos. It is an excellent, thought provoking read. I love the links feature. Some of the stories are tough to watch but I believe are extremely important to view. I lost my mother 8 years ago to cancer and I can relate to many of the stories especially the sense of denial family members have as well as the way physicians address or do not address the issue of dying. It brought back a lot of memories and emotions from that difficult time in my life but I felt better knowing that I wasn’t the only one that had certain thoughts and feelings during the process. I wish I had read it 10 years ago as I truly believe it would have helped me and my family through that time. I’m looking forward to reading the rest this week as well as opening the discussion with both my loved ones and clients. I have no doubt this book will come up in many of our conversations with clients as we often talk of estate planning but less often really dive into the emotional process. Thank you for writing the book and sharing your research on this difficult but important subject.”
From former students…
I love the videos. They are so real and are a nice change of pace from just reading.
The hyperlinks are awesome. It’s pretty quick to get a link to a podcast or a video.
FROM A RETIRED PSYCHOLOGIST
January 25, 2017
Dear Dr. Peterson,
I am delighted to have your new book, “Your Life, Your Death, Your Choice.” There is growing acceptance in our culture that we are going to die and that we can choose to make some choices about the circumstances of our deaths. Your book is a wonderful tool for that endeavor.
The first thing that struck me about the book is that it provides a great number of excellent resources, literally at the click of a key. The links to articles, videos, and documents give instant access to the information your text has just shown is needed. It is such an amazing and easy-to-use resource!
Second, the tone and tenor of your text is marvelous. It is warm and at the same time information-packed. I found myself feeling completely comfortable as I read, and I am sure other readers will experience that too. That’s important: other materials I have read have seemed threatening or condescending or superficial and too wordy.
If I were still teaching, I would use your book as a text in clinical and well as developmental psychology classes. And if I were still in private practice, I would recommend it strongly to many clients. Being retired from both, I am still active in community affairs, and I have already recommended it to several friends, colleagues, and groups. You may be sure that that will continue. I also plan to invite you to speak at my Unitarian Universalist church. I believe that every health care worker and professional, and every individual who wants to manage her or his departure as well as possible, should have your book as a resource.
Thank you for providing a desperately-needed resource for all of us, professionals and lay people alike. And congratulations!
Judith G. Dederick, Ph.D.
Psychologist in New York and New Jersey (retired)
Professor Emerita, Hunter College of the City University of New York
FROM A MEDICAL ADMINISTRATOR
I wanted to let you know that I think your book is excellent. It contains so much important information, and is so thought provoking. I love all of the links. And, I especially liked the section on shades of gray, as I have been dealing with significant cognitive decline with my mother. I see this book as an incredibly useful resource, and have gone back to re-read sections.
Thank you so much for all of your hard work in writing and publishing this book.
REPLACEMENT FOR A BROKEN HYPERLINK IN CHAPTER 1
IN CHAPTER 1 THERE IS A LINK WHICH READS: Consider the Conversation 2: Stories About Cure, Relief, and Confort. I am grateful to Michael Bernhagen and Terry Kuldhusdal, who produced this film and granted me permission to upload a new link. Consider the Conversation has won 22 awards and an Emmy nomination as a documentary about the importance of having serious conversations about end of life choices. You can go to: https://considertheconversation.org to learn more about the film and purchase a copy.
This extraordinary 2 minute trailer which is in Chapter 1 conveys many essential concerns of doctors about: (1) the lack of honesty between both patients and doctors, (2) the unintended consequences of powerful technology which can keep a body going, but with little quality of life, (3) the high likelihood that a patient will be hurt if they don’t have an ombudsman who knows what the patient wants, (4) the fierce attacks on doctors who broach the possibility that a loved one might not survive, and (5) the urgency they see in promoting serious and deep conversations. This link has been updated in the e-book
CLICK HERE TO WATCH THIS VIDEO.
REPLACEMENT FOR A SECOND BROKEN HYPERLINK IN CHAPTER 1 AT THE VERY END OF THE CHAPTER.
This is a very good 8 minute video illustrating how a man with terminal cancer discusses his end of life wishes with a nurse and in the presence of his wife. It no longer works so you can click here to see it. You will also see how the family reacts to his having made his choices and witness another family dealing with an eminent loss talking about how having made the decisions makes a big difference in the stress level.